MOM GUILT. Can we please talk about it? Do you experience it, and if so, what triggers it? What tools, if any, have you developed to minimize or navigate it? I’m going to be vulnerable and open up to you and share that I have A LOT of mom guilt, specifically when it comes to taking breaks from momming. Not to say I don't take breaks, in fact, most nights when my husband comes home, I disappear to my room for about 45 minutes to either take a work call OR zone out on my phone with a glass of wine. Also, most every Thursday my mother in law comes over for a few hours, and I go to appointments, run errands, or work, but I spend much of the time while I am away from my 4 kids, unsettled and regretful of the way I use my time when I'm with them, and ironically enough, missing them, but most of the time not enough to go home. It's worth noting that I experience mom guilt about a thousand other things too like: realizing at the end of a day that I didn't make my kids drink enough water, if any. 😱 Guilt for majorly losing it with my kids. Guilt for being on my phone too much. For telling them to "hurry!" when they are doing the best they can. Brushing their hair quickly instead of taking time to work out the tangles. Spending way more time cleaning than playing with them. And the 994 other reasons I didn't but could have easily mentioned. The reason why I am talking about this is because over the years, I have often heard from my clients that they think I have it all together simply because I know about sleep. (I can almost hear the sound of my family and friends laughing) I want to open up and let you know that I am a regular mom, just like you! (This is reminding me of the magazine sections "celebs- they're just like us!)😂 Actually, I am likely more neurotic than you are! And although I may not have mom guilt over my children's sleep (which is not to say it doesn't sometimes cause me stress), I have it in many other areas. So will you please tell me and
Saturday mornings brought to you by @grinderscoffee Actually this post is nothing to do with the team from Grinders other than that empty packet of beans I used to distract Oscar for long enough to grind my beans, as well as Peppa Pig of course... It’s incredible how quickly we can make an analysis on whether something is safe enough to give to the little ones to shut them up, erm I mean entertain them so you can get shit done right??
MEMORY - you know, I actually don’t remember this moment, nope not gonna lie, not sure why but I don’t recall this experience. Regardless of my memory or lack of, this moment is here now and it’s real! Memories are not created but rather lived. Experience your life in a meaningful way and connect with your present, or your past in your present, or even the future. Whatever you do just do it and be present :)