When things aren't going the way we want them to -- it's so easy to point our fingers and blame. It's easy to focus on something outside of ourselves and say "this is why this isn't working out." It's almost as if we're operating under some false belief that being the victim is easier then owning what's showing up for us. But the truth is pointing our finger at someone and holding onto resentment and blame only perpetuates our pain -- and it ends up leaving us feeling powerless and put upon. . When we can look at the things that are happening in our lives from the lens of "Hmmm. I wonder why this is showing up? I wonder how this serves me?" -- then our attitude around it shifts. It shifts from giving our power away to taking our power back and owning our experience in the fullest way -- trying to gain as much as we can from it. . When we can get curious about what's showing up in our lives and view the discomfort and pain as teachers knocking on our door - here to teach us and share their wisdom with us -- our energy completely shifts. . When we can forgive those around us for the things they've done that have hurt us -- and get that those experiences came to us to further our growth and healing - then each person that hurts our feelings becomes a gift. A teacher. Here to grow us and evolve us. . This is something I find I have to remind myself of over and over again in life. As my default naturally seems to want to go towards resentment. But each time I remind myself of this other way of approaching resentment -- I'm able to access a feeling of freedom, ease, and joy -- that honestly makes my temporary diversion from the path well worth it 💛 . #coachingwithmelanie www.goodatyou.com . #painasteacher#blamereducer#thehighpath#wisdomlessons#goodatyou#findingourway#dating#resentment#love#relationshiprepair
#whiteboardwednesday is all about cooperation and harmony. If you are speed boating to your dreams, you need the cooperation of others to get there. Check out my facebook page at 2pm today to learn how to get people on your side. When everyone wins, life is just better.
I'm three days into Fiona's preK year and life feels different in a wonderful way. While she's off getting her learning and social needs met, I'm home buckling down to do the work I've been WAITING to do. . On the blog, a post titled Let Me Tell You Where I am Now. Link in my profile to Shalavee.com. . And yes indeed, proof is Ithe picture, it'll soon be time again dear friends to do a week of soul searching for my biannual Soul Selfie Challenge. An opportunity to dig a little in your vulnerability zone and let it be seen. Or just get to know some of your IG friends and community a little better. . The challenge will be held Oct 9 - 15th, hosted by me, and we'll use the hashtag #soul_selfie to connect with one another. Who's in? . #challenge#community#taleswithfriends#wisdomlessons#leadership#enlightenment#acceptance#emotionalmaturity#selfdevelopment#shalavee#fionamariepeach
--A Sign-- #augustbreak2017 . If there ever was a moment when I knew we were moving on away from his childhood, it was this one. He allowed us to give him one last moment of childhood this past April when we were to the circus for his birthday. He said it truly was the greatest show on earth. . He's even larger now and about to enter 7th grade. And he still kindly indulges us in our whims. Eamon , our baby, isn't a baby anymore. .. PS. blog post on why I'm ok with teaching a Creativity workshop! Link in profile. . #circus#eamonspencerpeach#what12lookslike#taleswithfriends#wisdomlessons#createeverday#creativemamas
The law of 33% says, Divide ur 24hrs into 3 parts such as:- 1)Spend 33% of ur daily time with people who are 10-15yrs ahead of you, they might be ur teachers, mentors, guides or even someone whose career u admire, observe little things about how they conduct themselves, communicate with them regularly, they might make u uncomfortable but that's exactly what is required coz nothing great is achieved within ur comfort zone. 2)Now, the next 33% time is very important to spend with people on the same level as you're. They might be ur friends & colleagues keeping in mind "Har ek friend zaroori nhi hota hai" A healthy competition is essential to bring out the best in u. 3)And the remaining 33% time with people whom you can help to achieve the same, teach them, guide them coz teaching is twice the learning u acquired. #ultimatelearning#wisdomlessons#successfullife